Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Is Forgiveness Always Possible? Or Necessary?

Consider this. 

Sometimes we place too much emphasis on forgiveness. "if you are a good..... you will forgive." 

Now, what if what you are attempting to forgive is in fact un-forgivable? Yes un-forgivable.

I do believe and have experienced that there are things that happen that very possibly are un-forgivable in the human experience. To not forgive these things is OK. It does NOT make you a bad person. 

You see the connotation (synonym) of forgiveness is to absolve, let off the hook, wipe the slate clean. To try to do this with the truly unforgivable is to do violence to your soul. 

Remember the last several utterances of The Christ before he died: "Forgive them Father for they know not what they do." 

Do you see it? 

Even The Christ as he hung bleeding and nailed to the cross had to turn it over. He did not say "I forgive you." This was even too much for Him. So, let yourself off the hook in forcing forgiveness when it just may not be possible or even necessary. 

Turn the forgiveness over to your something larger (God, the universe, the Tao, whatever yours is) If forgiveness is not possible for you (and by the way NO-ONE can define this for you!) then try to have compassion for the offending person. Compassion for the suffering they must live with that brought them to act the way they do.

Leave them with their suffering. There is nothing you can do about it, except to make room for your healing.